Is it time to call in the professionals on your marriage? There are some signs that you’ve deemed ‘routine behavior’ in your daily life that may be an indication that it’s time to get marriage counseling Los Angeles.
One of You Is Constantly On Your Phone
It’s understandable when there is just so much to look at on social media. Instagram is full of home renovation makeovers, makeup tutorials and delicious food creations. Being on your phone all the time makes it hard to properly communicate with your partner. Communication is the foundation on which we build healthy marriages. So, when you or your partner aren’t speaking and burying your head(s) in your phone, it could be a sign that one of you is keeping something secret. It may be hurt, anger or resentment that you’re keeping at bay to avoid a fight and the communication that’s needed to resolve the issue.
You Aren’t Feeling Loved
While you may go on vacation, as partners to a friend’s wedding or on frequent date nights the small gestures of love are missing from your marriage. Your partner doesn’t keep eye contact, they infrequently hug or kiss you, they don’t listen intently when you speak. These small acts on intimacy and caring can be what allow a couple to feel a deeper connection and express their love. When these things go away it’s usually due to the fact that the perception of your partner has changed. Are you feeling positive about them or do you have a growing list of annoyances or resentments?
Sex is Infrequent and Not That Great When it Does Happen
If you are finding that you are dissatisfied with your sex life, you aren’t alone. This is one of the most common reasons why couples seek out therapy. It could be that you and your partner have unequal libidos with you (or them) wanting more. This can lead to one person feeling constantly rejected while a partner feels pressure to perform to keep you happy. Knowing that your marriage has intimacy issues can be the first place to start but it can be an embarrassing and frightening subject to approach with a stranger in a counseling session. However, it’s worth the effort because a life with more sex can mean a marriage with less resentment and tension.
One of You Had an Emotional or Physical Affair
When you chat with a cute check out girl, text with a coworker daily or stalk your ex on social media it may seem like behavior that everyone does. However, flirtations can easily become inappropriate relations involving emotional intimacy. These can lead to physical intimacy as well. Cheating not only puts strain and distrust on and into your marriage but also make way for betrayal. That closeness with someone and your investment in their life can be seen as a huge problem to your partner. If you think you may need marriage counseling Los Angeles, you may want to schedule a counseling session with Psychologist and Psychotherapist Dr. Yvonne Thomas. Dr.Thomas has over 20 years of experience with working with her clients to address their marriage issues. If you would like to schedule an appointment you can do so online or by calling (310) 359-9450